
There is a gap between what teenagers live, what they are and what they say. Learn to hear the contradiction of their desires is already a step in the communication.
The abandonment of children is achieved gradually by a divestiture of the first objects of love, this is a series of mourning (the relationship to the mother and dependence on parents), while developing a new type of relationship with them both internally and externally. This work intrapsychic causes feelings of helplessness and guilt. They alternate between guilt, shame, disappointment, self-esteem or triumphant omnipotence.
The evolution of adolescence is the integration of the peer group, the need to criticize the parents, the desire to regress to the family, the desire for independence and demand help.
Violence is very prevalent among adolescents, it reflects a reaction against the passivity (initiatives are difficult to take) and impulsivity resulting inability to integrate prohibited. This conduct, difficult to manage for parents, should lead them to redefine their way of being: how to pass the position relative to the position of children of parents who accompany the youth in his transfer to the position of young adult.






